互聯網流傳一封由前香港電台DJ梁繼璋寫給兒子的信，姑勿論其真假，文章挺有意思，值得轉載。我閱後亦很有衝動給女兒寫一封家書，以下英文句語純是我向女兒的說教，雖然部分內容仿若，但絕非原中文信的翻譯。
After reading Hong Kong celebrity 梁繼璋’s letter to his son on the internet, I figured I should write a letter to my three daughters as well. So, here it is. Please note that my letter is NOT the translation of the original Chinese letter of 梁繼璋.
給孩子的備忘錄 | Letter to My Princesses |
| 我兒: | My Dearest, |
| 寫這備忘錄給你，基於三個原則： （一）人生福禍無常，誰也不知可以活多久，有些事情還是早一點說好。 （二）我是你的父親，我不跟你說，沒有人會跟你說。 （三）這備忘錄里記載的，都是我經過慘痛失敗得回來的體驗，可以為你的成長省回不少冤枉路。 以下，便是你在人生中要好好記住的事： | If you come across this post – which I hope you would one day –please make note of the lessons I’ve learned. What I have experienced is no big different from what others do. In fact, the lessons are totally universal. Unfortunately, not everybody learn from experience. I hope you would though. I really hope you would learn before going through the pain I had. |
| （一）對你不好的人，你不要太介懷，在你一生中，沒有人有義務要對你好，除了我和你媽媽。至於那些對你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也請多防備一點，因為，每個人做每件事，總有一個原因，他對你好，未必真的是因為喜歡你，請你必須搞清楚，而不必太快將對方看作真朋友。 | 1. Don’t take anything for granted. No one is obligated to treat you well. Be thankful for those who do. Don’t mind those who don’t. When you find someone cares about you, watch out. There may be hidden agenda. Take your time before you befriend with anyone. |
| （二）沒有人是不可代替，沒有東西是必須擁有。看透了這一點，將來你身邊的人不再要你，或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時，也應該明白，這並不是甚麼大不了的事。 | 2. There is no one you can’t live without. There is nothing you absolutely must have. If you lose anyone or anything, take it easy. Life goes on. Treasure what you have. Don’t miss too much of what you once had. |
| （三）生命是短暫的，今日你還在浪費著生命，明日會發覺生命已遠離你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，與其盼望長壽，倒不如早點享受。 | 3. Life is short. Time cannot be reclaimed once gone. Don’t waste any second of it. Live life to its fullest. Quality is way more important than quantity. Instead of looking for a long life, just live a meaningful one. |
| （四）世界上並沒有最愛這回事，愛情只是一種霎時的感覺，而這感覺絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。如果你的所謂最愛離開你，請耐心地等候一下，讓時日慢慢沖洗，讓心靈慢慢沉澱，你的苦就會慢慢淡化。不要過分憧憬愛情的美，不要過分誇大失戀的悲。 | 4. It is easy to fall in love. It is not easy to keep loving. Love changes – except the love between you and me. Love with your heart AND head. |
| （五）雖然，很多有成就的人士都沒有受過很多教育，但並不等如不用功讀書，就一定可以成功。你學到的知識，就是你擁有的武器。人，可以白手興家，但不可以手無寸鐵，緊記！ | 5. Education doesn’t guarantee success. But I guarantee you will need knowledge to be successful. Keep learning, or you will fall behind. |
| （六）我不會要求你供養我下半輩子，同樣地我也不會供養你的下半輩子，當你長大到可以獨立的時候，我的責任已經完結。以後，你要坐巴士還是Benz，吃魚翅還是粉絲，都要自己負責。 | 6. As your mom, my job is to prepare you to be self sufficient. I am not responsible for your future. You owe that to yourself. I am here standing by you, and will always be. Show me how high you can fly. |
| （七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，你可以要求自己對人好，但不能期待人家對你好。你怎樣對人，並不代表人家就會怎樣對你，如果看不透這一點，你只會徒添不必要的煩惱。 | 7. Keep your words, but don’t assume others do the same. Respect others, but don’t expect the same returns. It does not sound right, I know. Just do it, for your own good. Otherwise, your life will be miserable. |
| （八）我買了十多二十年六合彩，還是一窮二白，連三獎也沒有中，這證明人要發達，還是要努力工作才可以，世界上並沒有免費午餐。 | 8. You always say you are the luckiest kids in the world, which you are. I am also the luckiest mom in the world because I have you three. But you know what? It is not just luck that lands us where we are. We have been working hard for it. Don’t you think? The harder we try, the luckier we will be. And that applies to everything else. There is no pure luck, my dear. |
| （九）親人只有一次的緣份，無論這輩子我和你會相處多久，也請好好珍惜共聚的時光，下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會再見。 | 9. We only live once. Family is not assigned by choice. Having you three is the best thing that could happen to me. I love you all. You are my everything. I will do anything for you. Just please make me be proud of you. If there is anything that you want to hide from me, think twice before you do it. |
| 你的爸爸 梁繼璋 | Mom with love |
确实费了一番功夫 谆谆善诱 希望孩子们能体悟
很多事要自身痛過才能領略到，希望孩子們不用痛太多。
agree with all points!
but, what is “love with your head”?
即理智地去愛。
写得太好了,这是一个人跌跌撞撞走到中年后留给后生的金石之言啊!
希望更多的年轻人可以看到,人生少走弯路
你似乎是在讚賞中文原文。Anyway, 的確很希望年輕人可以跌少一點仍可學精。
寫得很真情流露呀
謝。
非常非常喜欢，加星收藏，感谢Fanny姐分享 😛
I am glad you like it. 😉
很好的文章。谢谢分享。